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For me, the art and enjoyment starts the moment before the rope falls into place, that
specially charged moment where your eyes meet and then your partner’s demurely drop
and you pull him or her close to you, your hands starting slow, beginning the dance of
wrapping and feeling connected to your partner. Of feeling your partner relax and exhale
and fall into the dance of binding and caressing. Of your partner’s head relaxing back
against your chest as you carefully tie him or her, watching your partner forget his or her
cares and worries and just be in that moment with you. Where there is nothing but you
two, and what you are doing, and the rest of the world falls away. That is what I love most
and I hope you have a chance to experience it as well.

Finding a BDSM Community

If you’ve taken your first steps into bondage with your long-term partner(s), and you’ve
both loved it so much that you want to make it a larger part of your life, then your next
step might be finding the bondage/BDSM community in your city. This isn’t to imply that
you have to go straight from a little light wrist bondage and blindfolding to hardcore
swinging—far from it. There are many benefits that being part of a community can give
you, and not all of them are orgasm-related (although the best benefits of anything are
always orgasm-related, if you ask me). Think of the BDSM community like a book group:
You don’t sit around reading books with your book group, do you? No; you discuss books,
recommend good reads to each other and drink wine while waxing lyrical about the virtues
of Jane Austen over the Brontës. In other words, you share in each other’s knowledge
about a subject that you all enjoy. Your inclusion in a BDSM community can be just the
same; meeting likeminded people to share the best places to get colored rope and bondage
tape, and which creams help bruising go down to avoid awkward questions.

ƒ This tie uses a very simple Futo, which makes Alex look gorgeous.
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