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On the other hand, one of you might have coyly mentioned over a chai latte and a cookie
                                             that you might, just maybe, once in a while, be interested in bringing someone else into
                                             your playtime. Your partner might have shyly agreed that a third (or fourth, or fifth) play
                                             friend might be fun also. You might have timidly high-fived about it. In that case, then
                                             you might be looking for your local BDSM community in order to meet other likeminded
                                             kinksters who just love being tied up and spanked as much as you do. Great! Come in from
                                             the cold and pull up a chair; there’s a lot here for you!

                                             People anywhere and everywhere love being tied up, so even if you live out in Small Town,
                                             Nowhere, you can be sure that someone will share in your hobby—even if it is the old
                                             crone who runs the post office. I’ll wager that there’s a thriving bondage community in
                                             every city and large town in North America, although the larger the city you call home,
                                             the wider the pond of sexy little fish for you to play with. Of course, it doesn’t matter how
                                             many there are if you don’t know where to find them—so where’s the best place to look?

                                             No matter where you are in the world, Fetlife.com is a great resource for finding folks who
                                             share your kinky interests (and for looking at some sizzling hot photos). Like a Facebook
                                             for the perverted, Fetlife is a social media site made by and for those who love nothing
                                             more than being trussed up like a Christmas turkey on a school night. There’s a page listing
                                             kinky meetups, also known as “munches,” by city, and you can also search people by their
                                             location. This doesn’t mean that you should turn into a Web stalker trying to contact other
                                             people—the rules of normal social interaction still apply! If you like the look of someone,
                                             send him or her a private message saying a little bit about yourself and your interests, and
                                             that you’re looking for a community near you. Don’t go straight into listing your dirtiest of
                                             desires, because then you’ll be the internet equivalent of that pervy old man in the brown
                                             coat down the street. Always be polite.

                                             Google will also be your friend in your search for frisky friends; simply search “BDSM [your
                                             town]” or “bondage [your town]” and you’re sure to find dozens of listings of meetups,
                                             events, play parties, and even classes in your area. It’s important at this point to know what
                                             you’re looking for. Do you want to enjoy a drink with some friendly people to chat and
                                             make friends and, if you see a spark with any of them, maybe take it further? Or do you





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