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aftercare: The physical and mental support given to a submissive by the dominant hard limits: The lines over which a person will not cross, and which they do not want to
partner(s) after BDSM play. approach too closely.

bondage: The practice of tying or restraining a person, most commonly so that they master/mistress: A person who lives the BDSM lifestyle 24/7 and has committed to
are immobile. A whole host of materials can be used, but rope is the most common dominating a slave in a total power exchange (TPE).
and most popular.
rigger: A universal term for someone who likes to tie up others. Closely associated with the
bottom: A person who plays a submissive role when required. A bottom may not next term.
naturally be a submissive, but may take the role in a particular scene if no other
submissive is present. rope bunny: A person, of any gender, who gets hot and bothered being tied up or
restrained by rope. Bunnies aren’t necessarily submissive by nature, but they love a good
collaring: To engage in a committed, long-term dominant-submissive relationship. rope burn as much as the next masochist.
The dominant may place a collar upon the submissive during a special ceremony.
safe word: The code word that a submissive can use whenever play becomes too much.
consent: The most important concept in all of BDSM, this is affirmative permission, A safe word stops all play immediately, and its use is nonnegotiable. A safe word is
given in sound mind. RACK (risk-aware consensual kink) is a code of conduct in the particularly important in scenes where resistance play is expected; for instance, when
BDSM community and it is very much adhered to. a submissive may say no as part of the play. I recommend using “green,” “yellow,” and
“red”—just like a stoplight.
daddy: A person who takes on the role of a dominant to one or more submissives.
This role is nurturing and loving, and may involve education and emotional support as scene: A session of BDSM play. “Scene” can also be used to refer to the BDSM community
well as general dominant activities. as a whole.

dominant (or dom): A person who likes to be sexually dominant and takes on a role of sensation play: A type of BDSM activity that plays with a submissive’s sensations. For
power or authority over submissives in a power exchange. The dominant is generally instance, this may involve hot wax, ice, abrasive materials, and fur. This may or may not
in control of a scene with others and calls the shots. escalate into pain play.

domme: A female dominant, or a professional dominatrix. A domme may provide slave: A person who lives the BDSM lifestyle 24/7 and has committed to being under his or
nonsexual dominance services to clients. her master’s control entirely. This is the other role in a TPE.

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