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In rope bondage, if all participants don’t know the rules, then injuries sustained can be
mental as well as physical. This goes for all types of kink and BDSM, and in fact any play,
sexual or otherwise, when there’s an exchange of power and one party is given total
responsibility for the pleasure and well-being of another.

Communication, communication, communication

It’s something of a cliché, but it’s true: Communication is the key to safe, sexy, and fulfilling
play. Safe sex is sexy sex. It begins long before the rope is uncoiled and it’s still going on
when your heartbeats are finally returning to a resting state. In fact, communication should
be the constant throughout your whole exploration in rope bondage.

Whether you’re taking your first steps into bondage with a partner or partners, going
hand-in-hand with someone who’s more experienced, or even if you’re a single looking to
find someone to explore with, your first conversation with any potential partner should
be open, honest, and thorough. You should talk about your desires, your turn-ons, and
your fantasies, but you also need to talk about your boundaries, your turn-offs, and your
concerns. Tell your partner if you’re claustrophobic, or if you don’t like having your wrists
bound together. Tell him or her if you have any medical conditions, like an old shoulder
injury from college or a trick knee. Be clear and honest with them especially if you have
experienced abuse, mental or physical, in the past. Your partner should also share this
information with you, and remember: Though you may not see its significance, your
partner will. Always listen and be empathetic. Empathy is key to safe rope bondage
sex, and if you feel your partner doesn’t value it or has a problem with it, then look for
another partner.

Once you’ve shared your issues, now comes the fun part: Laying down your deepest,
darkest fantasies. Talk about those tasty little dreams that will never go away, like your
desire to be chained spread-eagle to a thick oak table and used as a sex slave by a group
of strangers. Talk about how much you’d love to feel rough rope run down your back,

ƒ Communication is key to any relationship—but it’s even more important in rope bondage.
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