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What should I practise now?

SKILLS TO PRACTISE / STRENGTHEN RAG

1 When a child struggles, keep a picture of the Cycle of Stress-Based Behaviour in your mind.

2 Practice reframing what you see children say and do in terms of what unmet need they are

demonstrating – do they not feel liked or cared for? Do they not feel they count or matter? Do
they not feel capable? Are they feeling a lack of control over what happens to them?

3 Reflect on whether this is time for paramedic, surgeon or consultant as you go to support a child.

If either party is still emotional, then paramedic is the best option.

4 Practice saying some key mantras to yourself as a ‘Prep4Best’ strategy:

❑ Be curious, not furious.

❑ Unmet needs and missing skills underlie all unhelpful behaviours.
❑ You cannot help a person to do better by making them feel worse.
❑ When people feel better, they do better.

❑ Connect to Calm.

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