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Learning to Stay in the Growth Zone

In life, there will always be times when are needs cannot be met so well: it

may be the room is too noisy, the task feels too difficult or a bit boring or

we may be around people who we are not sure like us.

Being able to tolerate times when our needs are not met is a really

important life skill (and to know when this is becoming bad stress.

The first step is to extend or grow our tolerance control.

That means being able to hold on to an unpleasant feeling without reacting

with a threat response – fight, flight, freeze.

Even something small (such as giving up on

the idea of starting a Dungeon and Dragons

group) is a stress response – just a mini one.

Giving up on something is a kind of freeze or

flight (moving away from the difficult task).