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Behavior related to following rules
because they help to make the game or
action "fair"

Comments that suggest that the child
knows things are not always fair

Child will not be "ok" with group
punishment, rather individuals should
receive consequences

Child comments on what is right and
wrong but knows that sometimes you
have to negotiate or compromise

The child knows people (friends / parents)
have different views to the child and that
is ok

Child holds the view that lying may be ok
if it is about loyalty and trust

Child notes the consequence must fit the
crime

The child is aware that punishments are
not about suffering, but about learning
not to do something that way again

Child can tell you what he/she did wrong
and can provide rationale for why

Child may demonstrate deep beliefs
about something related to justice for
instance... (animal cruelty and becoming a
vegetarian for instance)