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WHAT IF I WANT TO QUIT MEETING WITH YOU?
You can quit at any time. At the beginning of a meeting, in the middle or at the end…

IF YOU SAY YOU WANT TO STOP MEETING WITH ME, YOU WILL NOT BE IN
TROUBLE

Here, you can decide if you want to come to meet with me again. I asked your
parents if they could each bring you to see me 2 times. If you feel like you do not
want to be here, that is not a problem and you will not be in trouble for deciding
not to come back.

CAN I TELL YOU NOT TO TELL MY PARENTS ABOUT SOME THINGS? ALL
THINGS?

I will ask you about what you think I could share with your parents. I will tell you what I learned
about you and you can let me know what I can share. Some kids want me to share everything and
other kids tell me they only want me to share a few things. Some kids want to come with me to tell
their parents how they feel and I help them to say what they want to to their parents.

YOUR PARENTS SAID IT WAS OK FOR YOU TO MEET WITH ME

I have met with your parents and they know that they do not always do things
perfectly. They want to do things in the best way that they can for you. They said it
was important that you get a person that you can say things to and that person is
me.
PRIVATE VS. SECRET

What we do together is private but not secret. This means that I will not tell
your parents what we do together, but you can say anything you want to
them. If you say it is ok for me to share some of what we did together I will.
The only time when I don’t keep things private is when I know you are going
to get hurt (or are getting hurt), you are planning to hurt someone else or
you are going to hurt yourself.

I AGREE I WILL MEET WITH _______________________________ on _____________ (date)

Name_________________________

Printed Name of child

Signed by____________________________ ________________________________

Child Child Consultant

© Lorri Yasenik and Jon Graham 2016
Private and Confidential
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