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When the Thread Tears

Everyone can find themselves under the collective Kippah,
especially those born into families with a Kippah on their heads.

Those observing each and every Mitzvah, those who don’t take
it seriously as an ideology, others who don’t care as a practice

and even those who every connection between them and what
they’ve learned as kids is loose and weak, but the Kippah’s thin

thread still connects them to their family, their community and
their inner world. And this thread will never be severed. Unless

the belonging expires, unless a tear based on relationship is

formed.
Extremist parents, on both ends, deal with the situation in an

extreme way, on the entire range between ‘tearing a shiv’ah’
and publicized defamations of parents to children who became

religious. In such families (communities), it is understandable
why the miserable child had to do what he did. He simply had

no choice, if he wanted to live, just live.
But when it happens in “our” families…? How can you

understand children, who grew up in “moderate”, sane homes,
all to the proper educational extent and tolerance, openness and

with sacred pluralism… and still out of the blue one day (on the
last day in the Yeshiva, or the “Hesder” or the army) take their

Kippah off anyway? How do you explain it? And how do you
deal with the pain?.

It’s hard to believe how painful it is. For we truly and honestly

believe in every child’s right to choose his or her own path, and
by no means should he or she choose our path exactly, on the
contrary. We are completely certain that we have no problem

accepting every child as he or she is.

Until he takes the Kippah off, or puts it on. Even then we
believe this is his right, accept him, honor him and love him…

but the pain, the pain is also there.

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