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And the parental pain comes from the same place that sees the
child's disappointment with the community (hypocrites,

bourgeois, mediocre, patronizing etc.) and with the parents
themselves, for the same reasons, or very similar ones. On the

one hand, this hurts (how can he not see how good we are? How
really okay we are? How doesn't he realize that this is exactly

how one should live?) and on the other hand we feel for the
child's pain, the pain and hurt which caused him to feel out of

place. And this pain is greater than its predecessor and echoes

from it.

For taking one's Kippah off or putting one suddenly on
symbolizes that something in the family isn't working properly.

Something in the relationship. Something in the parenting. It has
nothing to do with G-d or the Mitzvah's (my apologies to those

becoming religious), nothing to do with the meaning we were
lacking or the great light. Just to the child's sense of belonging

in the family being hurt.

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