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Independence Looks So Beautiful On You How to Thrive After Being Raised
Lisa Perlmutter - Partner, Rodan + Fields

By Lauren Essex by a Ghost Mother
Imagine having “extra” funds
for guilt-free shopping.
Envision how rewarding work By Kathryn Rudlin, LCSW
would feel after years at home.
Many women today are caught
between the high cost of living
in San Diego and the hope for
financial independence and
purpose. And if you’re like Lisa
Perlmutter, wife and mom of 3
children at home, the fact that
she saw an older reflection in
the mirror did not help her feel
on top of her game. Sound
familiar?

Be in business for yourself
but not by yourself.

When it comes to finding extra
income and feeling better about
yourself, two of the top names
in Skincare; Dr. Katie Rodan and Dr. Kathy Fields, the creators of Proac-
tiv®, answer the call. They’ve teamed up with Independent Consultants
around the country (and soon global) to expand their dermatology-based
skincare beyond private practice with a mission to empower Consultants’ at
the same time.
Personal impact beyond skin deep. Women who grow up poorly mothered often experience lingering
distress and haunting issues as a result. When mothers are unable to
Lisa Perlmutter, a Rodan + Fields partner, feels blessed to share clinically- be nurturing or empathic, daughters struggle.
proven prestige skincare with the women of San Diego and provide more
financial independence for stay at home moms, empty nesters and those Surprisingly, the most effective response is the one that seems the
who struggle to make ends meet. We spoke to Lisa and asked her to share most counterintuitive. What I’ve learned is this: rather than ignore the
how changing skin has changed her life. painful feelings, embrace the truth of what you’ve experienced so it
doesn’t continue to haunt you.
1. Dermatology-grade products that work – Just like losing 10 pounds
doesn’t happen overnight, daily skincare can improve your confidence with I’m often asked: What is the point of exploring this pain, of rehash-
28 glowing results over time. Using Rodan + Fields is as close as you can get ing something that happened in childhood? The point is that we had
to visiting a dermatologist - without an appointment and without invasive
procedures. to adapt to this difficult situation, in many ways raising ourselves,
perhaps bending over backwards to please mom, or rebelling against
her requests.
2. Shameless shoe fund or extra income – After 60 days in the busi-
ness, I was able to buy outdoor furniture that I coveted for years. And I’m As adults we often don’t recalibrate our thoughts and behavior,
not alone. A business partner was able to move her family back home to perhaps continuing to be an excessive people pleaser or fighting a
California after falling on hard times and literally surviving on food stamps. battle that was lost long ago. The key to thriving as a ghost-daughter
is to become empowered by tapping into your courage, strength, and
3. Focus on business building, not busy work – Rodan + Fields is turn resilience.
key. No parties. No inventory. No paperwork. No shipping. It’s the kind of
business I can fit into the nooks and crannies of my day – all I need is wifi. In the process of reinventing yourself you find out who you truly are
and how to get what you didn’t receive as a child. If you’re ready to
It feels great to contribute to my family financially and have steadily growing thrive from the experience of being raised by a ghost, I offer my per-
income courtesy of Rodan + Fields! sonal and professional experience to help you do so, here’s how:
Feel better about your skin? Feel more independent? It’s a win win. Please • Read my book: Ghost Mothers: Healing From the Pain of a Mother
call me to learn more. Who Wasn’t Really There interweaves my story and the stories of
others to show what it takes to heal. Available from Amazon and my
Lisa Perlmutter website.
lgperlmutter@gmail.com 858.442.1666
Product Info https://lperlmutter.myrandf.com • Attend a workshop: “Feel the Heal” integrates yogic wisdom with
Business Info https://lperlmutter.myrandf.biz a cutting edge understanding of how to transcend this pain in a fun,
Facebook.com/skincare concierge positive, supportive setting.

• Participate in individual therapy: benefit from my unique, individual-
ized approach that expertly supports and guides your healing.
• Utilize online support: www.facebook.com/ghostmothers

The answers you discover will create a sense of strength inside you
that will forever change your life. For additional information:
www.ghostmothers.com