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8 Kinds of Friends That Every Woman Needs

Dr. Sanam Hafeez, Neuropsychologist Psy.D

One of the most important and yet least understood areas of psychology is She believes you truly can be, do, and have anything you imagine and
the role of friends in our lives. Most of the research on friendship focuses seems to know the right things to say to get you fired up about doing more
on children and adolescents. Rarely do researchers seriously address with your life.
friendships over the majority of our lifespan. It’s not just having friends that
play a critical role in our lives but the types of friends we choose. The
Gallup Organization’s director, Tom Rath believes that we are all aware of
the value of friendship - especially during difficult times. In his book, “Vital
Friends: The People You Can’t Afford To Live Without,” Rath asserts that
if you ask people why they became homeless, why their marriage failed or
why they overeat, they often say it is because of the poor quality, or nonex-
istence, of friendships. Clearly having friends is important. NYC Neuropsy-
chologist Dr. Sanam Hafeez breaks down the “friend personality types” that
can enhance our psychological well-being.

8 Kinds of Friends That Every Woman Needs

1. "The Confidant" -- This is the friend who understands and values
discretion: You know that when you tell her something other friends won't 5. "The Older One" -- This is the friend who is older than you. She has
find out. What you tell her stays with her. Trust is your bond. experience and offers wisdom. She's nurturing but without the judgement
of a family member. Her life experience affords her an ease and flow that
calms you down and reminds you that life is a journey and every moment,
even the ones that seem tough, are perfect.

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2. "The Fun One" -- This is the friend who takes your mind off your
problems and redirects you toward a positive headspace. She's the friend
who is always up for meeting for a drink, a movie, a spontaneous bite, a
party or concert. She puts you in a great mood.

6. "The Platonic Man Friend" -- This is the guy who offers you a male
perspective and sets you straight when you're being illogical. He simplifies
things. He respects you and has your back like a sister. There's absolutely
no sexual tension between you but there's a genuine caring friendship.
There's a give and take in this friendship. You're both there for breakups
and business wins and losses and when neither one of you has anything to
do you can count on one another to check out a movie or a museum.

3. "The Listener" -- This is the friend who doesn't judge, doesn't give
unsolicited advice but just lets you vent, makes you tea and sits with you.
In times of crisis she's a shoulder to cry on.

4. "The Motivator" -- This is the friend who sees your potential and
inspires you to write that book, take that class, and lose those 20 pounds.