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As you become more confident, the ability to effectively com- memos, emails, and any other tangibles you collect from the
municate with others, including the bully, naturally follows. bully to help prove your case. Tell your story with a begin-
Confident speakers take risks and they do it with a grace and ning, middle and end, stick to the facts, and provide very
passion that reflects in their communication style. The power specific details. Ultimately, if the situation does not resolve,
exuded is a shield against people who may attempt to target do not be afraid to quit and save your dignity.
them with childish behaviors. Think about the boldness you As for Kate, on “game days” as she calls them (those days
project when standing with your arms on your hips or down she knows extra bravery is required), she pulls her hair
at the side, rather than folded across your chest (a signal of straight back, pins down the thick bangs that often cover her
fear or shyness). These slick moves come with courage and eyes, puts on one of her brightly colored shirts and slides
belief in yourself, which will also allow you to continue to do into her favorite pair of power pumps. With nowhere to hide
your job - and do it well. she has no choice but to be confident, bold and daring all
Keep your productivity high and your work quality at 100%. day - sometimes for weeks at a time.
Do not give the bully any information that could be used to You have the ability to change your negative situation. As
take you down. If your situation is brought before manage- Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "No one can make you feel
ment or Human Resources, be sure the bully cannot say you inferior without your consent”.
are lacking in work product and quality.
Human Resources can help, but there are a few things you
should know before approaching them. Keep in mind they
know exactly what you mean if you tell them you feel sexu-
ally harassed; but they will need more help from you to un-
derstand bullying. Keep a factual journal of behaviors, dates,
times, and names of witnesses. And while it may be hard
at first, it is important to keep emotions out and save them
for your personal journal at home. Create a file and keep

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