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“i” sTaTEmEnTs
ACTIVITY
Ask participants to pair up for a little role playing. Person A and Person B have a shared commitment for which Person B has been late three out of the last five times. This is a problem for Person A and she wants to talk about it with Person B. Ask participants to each take one role in the discussion.
The first time through, both participants can say whatever and however they want about the situation. After a few minutes, ask the participants to start over and ask that Person A use only statements starting with “I,” such as “I feel anxious when you are late because I am afraid that we will not get the job done on time.” The goal of this conversation is to create a plan for rectifying the problem behavior. Person A should acknowledge his or her feelings about the behavior and ask for new behavior on the part of Person B and explain why that behavior is preferable to Person A. Both people should be practicing active listening.
The Dawn of Transformation: A Matrix Guide to Change
The Dawn of Transformation: A Matrix Guide to Change by LaVrene Norton and Steve Shields, ©2005 Action Pact, Inc.
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