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Values are linked to our identity and beliefs and often they are developed at an unconscious level. Unconscious values often come from our families, our
teachers and our peer groups and are strengthened and developed as we ourselves develop and grow.

A core value is one that is relevant to all aspects of the individuals’ life. When a core value is dishonoured, this can generate stress.

Other values emanate from the roles we occupy in our lives. Friendship for example requires respect, trust and empathy. Leadership includes values such as
integrity, wisdom and vision.

Our childhood brought many of our values, often in the form of emotional programming described in a previous section. It comes from our exposure to and
awareness of parents, siblings and others, all of whom influenced our lives with their own values and beliefs. Some of these contributors brought excellent
lifetime values to our lives, others, consciously or not, may have brought negative influence in the area of our values that have impact for as long as we continue
to rely on them for our decisions and behaviour.

The most important person in all of this is you.

Whilst we may be grateful or ungrateful for the influence others may have had imposing or implanting their values upon us, the ultimate responsibility rests
with you to determine which of the values that form your foundation are really valuable to you and which are not.

There follows a detailed exercise to determine your core values. Before starting, reflect back on previous sections, at those key times in your life when you
hade choices and decisions and were influenced by the conduct, actions or behaviour of others. How much of your life today has been formed by their influence
and how much is truly your own. Identifying your own true core values is so important in moving forward with your life as the authentic you. It is time to be
ruthless about the values that are not yours, or no longer serve you. By the same token, it is time to be appreciative of the values that are truly important to you
and will continue to serve you well on your journey.

Values in Specific Areas

It is very important to elicit your own core values. The values identification exercise that follows is for life in general. It is a simple process to repeat the
exercise, applying it specifically to the key life areas we have discussed previously, repeated again at the start of the section.

When people become disconnected from their values, they lose their motivation. You may recognise people who are examples of this. They may
become so disconnected from their values that they sit for hours on end in front of the television, flipping the remote control from one channel to
another, hoping to find amusement or distraction.

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