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feel? You must first respect yourself to have this happen, and you do this by
learning to assert yourself (самоутвердиться). Have you noticed that self-
love, self-respect and self-awareness (самопознание) all begin with the word
self? This is because these character traits (черты характера) can only be
developed by you.
You must expose yourself (подвергнуть себя) to conflict and challenging
situations to get used to standing for what you believe in, in spite of (несмотря
на) the challenges. As you expose yourself to this over and over, you will
develop the emotional strength to respect yourself. In turn, others will respect
you and take you seriously.
2. Express your emotions, including (включая) anger: Anger is a healthy
emotion. It is what warns (предупреждает) you that danger is near and
activates you to protect yourself and others. Anger is natural. It is a forward
moving emotion (эмоция, которая двигает вас вперёд). You can express this
emotion best by being firm (твёрдым) and direct (прямолинейным).
Don’t beat around the bush (не ходите вокруг да около) if you are
frustrated (расстроены) or disagree with someone or something. Learn to
speak up (высказаться) and express what you think and feel about a situation.
Remember, in life you can’t get what you want unless (если только) you say
what you want. Never let anyone, any deal, or any customer take advantage
of (воспользоваться) you simply because you do not want to lose something
or someone. Learn to use your anger to set limits (установите границы).
which is it’s intended purpose (что и есть целью, которую требовалось
достичь).
Anger and rage (ярость) are different. The type of anger that will bring you
success is the type that can be spoken with class, gratitude and a statement of
deliberate direction (утверждением преднамеренного направления).
3. Express your opinions: Your opinions are as important as you make them.
If you cower (прятаться) in a situation because you are afraid someone will
reject (отклонить) your opinion there is no way for anyone to know you or
your preferences. Do not look for agreement, simply state (укажите) what is
correct for you and live that fully.
In business and life your opinions are the expression of who you are, what you
think and feel. If you cannot express this part of you, there will be no real path
up the mountain (реального пути), aside (кроме) from riding along in life on
the coattails (успехе) of others.
If happiness is the byproduct of achieving, then you need to learn to express
your opinions and see that they can have a large and positive influence
(влияние) on the directions you want to take.

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