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Once you settle on one particular out fine.” How could she possibly stand
change, explore your emotions. What out and shine in a sales profession with
feelings come up when you imagine thoughts like that running the show?
yourself doing this new thing? Are they
positive? Negative? Don’t judge. Just take So, get a broom and sweep those old dusty
note and jot all your feelings down. thoughts from your focus. Acknowledge
and thank the old patterns for the wisdom
Let’s say the idea of a new love they have provided, then put them down
relationship excites you, but misgivings and create new thoughts and feelings you
show up. Maybe it even scares you. can believe in deeply to replace them.
Explore relationship patterns in your Grab a cloth and polish the windows to
family system to see if this fear even your soul. Stand in front of a mirror, look
belongs to you. As we saw with Louise, yourself in the eye and tell yourself it’s not
emotional patterns take root and travel just okay to have a new love—or a new car
through the generations. You may well or a new job or a new puppy—in your life.
have inherited your fear from a parent or It’s your destiny. After all, it’s just a part of
sibling or even an earlier ancestor who got spring cleaning.
badly burned in a love affair. Take note
of the way you’re thinking. Do certain Judy Wilkins Smith
negative thoughts predominate? “I’m not
attractive enough to find a great love. Judy Wilkins-Smith, author of Decoding
Good relationships don’t happen in our Your Emotional Blueprint: A Powerful
family. I’m not deserving enough.” Or Guide to Transformation Through
how about, “Love is overrated.” Or “Love Disentangling Multigenerational
makes you weak.” Patterns, is a highly-
regarded, international
Just like emotions, thought patterns, organizational, individual
words and sayings—something called and family patterns
systemic sentences— travel through expert, systemic coach,
the family line. We end up thinking trainer, facilitator,
and saying things automatically, never leadership conference
realizing these thoughts don’t really and motivational speaker
belong to us. Louise had some real zingers and founder of System
running through her head. “People Dynamics for Individuals
who need attention are just begging & Organizations. For
for trouble” was one systemic sentence. more information: https://
Another was “Just keep your head down, judywilkins-smith.com/
don’t ask for much, and things will work
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