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Are you considering what you can do for yourself to stay calm when you get into the heat of an
angry moment as you're feeling yourself becoming dysregulated, and your body sensations
change?

You don't want to say something or do something that you're going to feel bad about later, or
maybe negatively impact your relationship with your child or other family members.
Your anger is your choice and being empowered with healthy anger tools can help you stay in a
calmer, more regulated, clear-thinking place in your brain.

This way you can make smarter choices in how to express your anger.
There are healthy ways to show your anger in that moment,

● Taking a pause (with slow deep breaths)
● Using positive mantras and self-talk

● Getting your brain into a more regulated, clear-thinking place

● Understanding and assessing what you and your child need.

● Communicating your anger assertively, not aggressively, without fear or shame.

You can help your brain on anger, by thinking about your thinking - understanding how you
perceive, interpret and process information in the heat of an angry moment.

What can you do for yourself when you feel that emotional dysregulation and emotional hijacking?

What can you do to empower yourself to stay in a more regulated and calmer place to be able to
make better connections and better decisions?

Your thoughts are the number one cause of your anger.

You have the ability to control your angry thoughts, rather than your angry thoughts controlling
you.

As you feel that emotional charge when you get into that angry exchange with your kids. It's your
thoughts that fuel and intensify your emotions.

You can do some calming self-talk, some breathing to get your body in a more relaxed place and
understand that you have the power to be able to stay calm. Become more regulated with clear-
thinking and be more effective in your healthy anger response.

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