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In other words, he can get this need met outside the relationship. That’s
a big problem. And it’s something you’ll learn more about later in this
course.

Women thrive in relationships when there’s deep emotional intimacy.
Bonding and connection are the rewards women seek from a
relationship.

In relationships, women want to feel like they matter. Like most women,
you want to be at the center of his unfolding life story. You want to
build a shared story that becomes more beautiful over time as you build
memories together.

But here’s the problem. Men don’t always give you a central position in
their unfolding life story. Men often treat women as an accessory. A side
benefit. A hobby.

They do this because their hero instinct needs are being met outside the
relationship. In fact, their needs are often better met outside the
relationship than within. That’s bad news for a relationship. Yet this is
the sad reality I have encountered over and over as a professional
relationship coach.

Many women actually block a man’s hero instinct. It’s accidental, of
course, but the damaging effect is just the same. He feels less
passionate. Less interested. And he doesn’t even know why.

Fortunately, bridging overcomes this problem.

Bridging works by channeling his male instincts toward his relationship
with you. Rather than fighting against his instinct (like most women do),
you will simply redirect the powerful flow of his hero instinct.

This is the essence of bridging. It’s a skill you can learn. A relationship
concept you will master over time.