Page 65 - Spirit - A Journey Through Embodiment

points we are trying to make. We are speaking on behalf of
your Spirit and your ego is doing the listening, judging what
we say, diverting responsibility where possible and making
excuses to avoid guilt. We see guilt as a useless emotion,
often used to excuse our taking positive action to correct our
ways, leaving us to carry on life but carrying the burden of
guilt until we mitigate it. This burden can be carried for the
rest of our lives. This is unnecessary, all it takes is for us to
admit to ourselves that we made incorrect choices, and on the
basis of the outcome, re-evaluate the circumstances and make
fresh choices that will provide a happy solution. We will then
have learnt the lesson we need to attain from the whole
episode and have no need for guilt. When we look at the
behaviour of children we need to allow them this
understanding. We must allow our children to make choices
so that they may experience the outcome. We must not judge
them by their choices. We must not punish them for making
what ostensibly is a wrong choice, nor should we reward them
for making a right choice. The law of Cause and Effect does
that, it punishes or rewards choices. What we can do is
continuously remain detached so that we can have an
objective view and be there to validate their experience, to
encourage their responsibility for making decisions, to allow
them free will in their choice without adjudication, and be
there, without criticism, to catch them should they fall. Should
they fall we can help dust them down and encourage them to
make a fresh decision before carrying on. In this way our
children can have confidence in themselves and learn it is ok
to take calculated risks, its ok to make mistakes, its ok to learn
from these mistakes and find failure as rewarding as
succeeding, though differently rewarding.