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Proverbs 31:12 “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

Proverbs 31:28–29 “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises
her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’”

A good illustration of the role of the helper is the accompanist, whose job it is to make the soloist sound
good. As a helper, we want to make our husband look his very best and be his very best. We want others to
see him as a leader full of wisdom and insight so we do everything we can to help him. We want to make
him shine.

9. The helper prays for and together with her husband.

Ephesians 6:18 “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.
With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”

The wife is to love her husband.

Titus 2:4 “Then they can urge the younger women to
love their husbands and children.”

It is rather interesting that the Bible never commands the wife
to love her husband using the word “agape”, meaning
“unconditional love”. But the command most mentioned for the
husband is exactly that. I guess God knew unconditional love
would be more difficult for the husband to obey. Because the
wife is a responder, it is not difficult for her to “agape” love her
husband if he is “agape” loving her.

Here, in Titus 2:4 the word for “love” is “phileo” meaning the friendly kind of love. Sometimes a wife needs
to be reminded, as God does here, that her husband needs to feel her friendly love towards him. He needs
to feel that she likes him.

But yes, God does want a wife to love her husband with an attitude of unconditional acceptance. Love is a
sacrificial action. And for a wife, she can show love by being physically responsive to her husband.

.” 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise
the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but
yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his
own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual
consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come
together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

Song of Solomon 7:10–12 “I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Come, my
beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go
early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened,
and if the pomegranates are in bloom- there I will give you my love.”

A rich sex life is extremely important to your husband. It must never be underestimated or degraded. Save
time and energy to meet your husband's need in this area. We will discuss this in greater detail in a later
lesson.
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