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Realize that God may not limit your range of choice in a possible mate to just
one person. In His permissive will, there may be several good possible choices.
You will need to make the best choice you can, and trust God to empower you
in that marriage to that person. If you are convinced that God was directing
you in such a way as to allow you to marry a certain person, but then, that
person breaks off the relationship, do not lock yourself into only that one
possibility. Consider that there are other people God will bring into your life
whom you could marry. Continue to trust Him. Do not become bitter and try to
go your own way.

C) Five questions concerning commitment:

1. Are you seeking direction from God’s Word?

Psalm 119:105 “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.”

We are to have a personal relationship with Christ.

We are to marry a Christian.

2 Corinthians 6:14–15 “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do
righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with
darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer
have in common with an unbeliever?”

We are to pray and seek God.

Proverbs 3:5–6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own
understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

2. Do you both have a heart for God?

Is Jesus Christ at the center of your relationship? Are you both pursing God? What is the history of the other
person’s walk with Christ? Are you prepared to unconditionally accept your future spouse as a gift from
God?

3. What is the advice of wise and godly counselors?

Proverbs 11:14 “For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many
advisers.”

Have you solicited the honest counsel of mature Christians who know both of you well? Have you listened
carefully to your parents?

4. In what direction is your relationship headed?

Have you written out your goals? Where will your relationship be in 5, 20, 50 years?

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