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Sefer Chafetz Chayim םייח ץפח רפס
Ilustrative Examples םירויצ
Example 10 ו רויצ

Chazal teach in Gemara Berachot (19a). But if we see that peson has not תוֹארְִל לוֹכי וֹניאֶשׁ תמחֵמ ,הז ריִתּהל הצרְיֶּשׁ יִמ ,הלּא
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venting nonsense, obviously one must presume that later he regretted what ךְירִצ ,ןָתּחְמה תא םיִמּרְַמ םינכדְַשּׁהֶשׁ ,וֹרבח תאנוֹאבּ
he had said and it would be forbidden to cause a loss to him]. And even
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more so it would be forbidden to disclose those remarks if this observer תוֹנוֹזְמּה תקַפּסהו אינוּדנּה תוֹעמ יִכּ ,הלִּחְתִּמ רֵעַשׁיֶּשׁ
did not hear them expressed first hand by the father but rather was told אלֶֹּשׁ יִתִּמא רבדּ אוּה ,חיִטבמ ןָתּחְמהֶשׁ ,םידִגבּה תַשׁיִבלוּ
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about the remarks by others or that he only suspects the that the father in
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law will not keep his promises because of his evil disposition or something וּניניֵע יִכּ ,הז רבדּ ריִתּהלוּ רהמל ןיא םָתסִבדּ ,וֹבּ בזּכי
comparable; most certainly the observer should not get involved in this
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matter once the engagement has already taken place. ךְיַּשׁ אלֹ וּתּ ןכּ םִאו ,םיִמיּקְַמ ןיא םהֵמ הבּרְה יִכּ ,תוֹאוֹר
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ןָתּחְמה ןכּ ,ןָתּחְמהל המּרְַמ ןָתחהֶשׁ וֹמכּ יִכּ ,האנוֹא וֹבּ
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Daily Halacha: 29 Tevet, 29 Eyar, 29 Elul; Leap Year- 10 Shevat, 19 Eyar, 29 Elul
לכּ הזבּ ןכּ םגּ ךְירִצ הז לכּ דבלוּ .הזבּ הז אציו ,וּהֵמּרְַמ
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Mekor Hachayim
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.)'ב ףיִעס 'ט ללכִבּ הלְעמל םיִבוּתכּה םיִטרְָפּה
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E3/ 0. However there are occasions when it is permissible to
disclose this information \ gossip (15), for example, the observer
knows the bride has an internal medical problem that is not obvious
that is not generally known and the groom is unaware of it. The
observer is obligated to disclose this information to the groom
but he must be careful to conform to all of the conditions listed םייח םימ ראב
above in the second halacha of the 9 Kelal. But if this observer דצה םא וליפא ונייהו .תוליכר רוסיא ששח )ז(
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only learned about her condition because he heard it from others,
he may not disclose it to the groom (16) except if he assesses the .הז ןינעב ולאוש וניא ינשה
groom will not take matters into his own hands and unilaterally
break off the engagement but instead the groom will only suspect יוצמ רתוי לוקלקהש ינפמו .ל"נה םיטרפה )ח(
the report might be true and he will then launch his own thorough טעמבו אידהב ןאכ םרזחא ןכל ולא םינינעב
investigation. In this case too the observer is obliged to conform
to all of the conditions listed above in the 9 Kelal, in the second אוה הז רבד יכ הלחתמ ולצא ררבתיש )א .תופסות
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halacha. ועבטב שולח קר אוה םא יקופאל ,ףוגה ילוח ללכב
ללכב וניא )ןנבר יעירמו יריצק ורמאש ןינעכ(
Be’er Mayim Chayim הממ רתוי הלחמה ןינע תא לידגי אלש )ב .ילוח
(E3/10/1)-(15) .. it is permissible to disclose this information \ תאנש דצמ אלו ,ןתוחמה תלעותל ןיוכיש )ג .איהש
gossip: Even if he is the only (solitary) person making this disclosure (to ןנובתיש ,דחא ןינע דוע ללכנ טרפה הזבו .ןתחה
the groom), the disclosure possibly might be permitted. And the necessary אוה םא יקופאל ,ורובידמ תלעות אובת םא הלחתמ
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condition posed in the 9 Kelal, in the 5 halacha, that specifically two
people are required to make that disclosure (in the framework where he יוצמ הז רבדו .ומע ךדתשיו ול עמשי אלש רעשמ
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