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Sefer Chafetz Chayim                  םייח ץפח רפס
 Ilustrative Examples                      םירויצ
 Example 5                                 אי רויצ


 a relationship) right in front of their counterpart over matters that    ,וֹלסִכבּ היהי 'ה זאו ,םוֹלָשׁו סח ,ןידּה רדֶגִּמ אצי אלֶֹּשׁ
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 are  completely  insignificant.    For  example,  if  the  prospective
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 bridegroom  is  a  quiet,  simple  straightforward  person  who  is  not    תוֹאיגְשִּׁמ וּנליִצּי לארְָשׂי רוּצו .רציּה חפבּ דכלּי אלֶֹּשׁ
 very sharp and does not pick up on the strategies and tricks people   .תוֹאלְפנ וֹתרָוֹתִּמ וּנארְיו
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 play as they deceive each other.  Or he does not want to get involved
 with scoffing and ridicule as other young men his age do, and so
 they publicize him throughout society as being a simpleton and a
 fool to the point where that perception becomes the reason (for the
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 bride’s family deciding) not to go ahead with the engagement or to   ."ןֵמָאו ןֵמָא םלוֹעל 'ה ךְוּרבּ"
 break off the engagement (or some other comparably bad outcome).
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 G-d should annihilate all of these smooth talkers because of this.      ינֵשַּׁה קלֵחַה םלְשׁנו םַתּ
 It is not enough that they are categorized as habitual speakers of   "םייַּח ץֵפָח" רֶפסִּמ
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 Lashon Hara because there is not in their futile conversation the
 fulfillment of even one single condition listed above in the 9  Kelal,
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 in the 2  halacha.  Moreover, the Torah characterizes these people
 as slanderers since they are lying about this man, as we discussed
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 the 1  Kelal, and in the 2  halacha of the 5  Kelal.  Even if what
 they said is absolutely true, these speakers still must fulfill all of the
 conditions listed above (5) (in the 9  Kelal).
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 [Truthfully,  these  people  are  also  characterized  as  provocateurs
 who  cause  society  to  sin.    Because  of  their  evil  personalities  to
 rush to ridicule \ scoff at this person and to vent their insults and
 defamation onto him, they influence \ sway honest people who are
 wholehearted  and  straightforward  to  follow  them  into  their  evil
 lifestyle.    Initially  these  (wholehearted)  people  are  pressured  (to
 follow these evil men) in order that these evil scoffers \ cynics and
 habitual speakers of Lashon Hara not label them as men who are
 imbeciles or fools or not the wholehearted people they appear to be.
 Later, these people are drawn to follow their lead and eventually
 this lifestyle becomes second nature to them. Chazal’s teachings are
 very well known in this regard: The Gemara Avodah Zara instructs
 us (18b) “If someone walks by them, eventually he will stand next
 to them and if he stands next to them, eventually he will sit with
 them.”  One must strengthen oneself very much and overcome this
 human inclination and not allow even the slightest opening for these
 evil people; not even to argue with them.  Just fortify yourself very
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