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Sefer Chafetz Chayim םייח ץפח רפס
Hilchot Esurei Lashon Hara ערה ןושל ירוסיא תוכלה
Kelal Het - Halachah 14 א הכלה - ט ללכ

punished because of this (the parents for speaking Lashon Hara and :ה"הגה
this person for not stopping it). Chazal teach in Gemara Shabbat
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(54b) that anyone who has the ability to stop the members of his רבּדַל הצוֹר םִא ,הזבּ אצוֹיּכּ לכל ןידּה אוּהדּ דֹמלנ הזִּמוּ *
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household from sinning (and doesn’t) is punished for the sins of וֹתוֹא םִע םלָשׁ וֹבִּל ןיאֶשׁ רֵעַשְׁמ אוּהו ,יִמ תוֹדוֹא דחא םִע
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the members of his family. Therefore one should accustom oneself וֹמִּע רבּדַל רוּסאדּ ,וֹתוֹנּגל הז ידֵי לע אוֹביו )ד( ,ינוֹלְפּ
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to routinely rebuke members of his household in these matters.
However, they must do so gently, without intimidation and impress .ויָתוֹדוֹא
upon them the seriousness of the future punishment that awaits
anyone who speaks Lashon Hara and conversely the great reward
in store for everyone who is careful and refrains from speaking םייח םימ ראב
Lashon Hara.
Furthermore one must always be careful that the members of his אוה הז לכ .ותונגב ורפסיש 'וכו םירבד שי )א(
household never hear him ever criticize or degrade a fellow Jew. הרואכלו .ד"ה תועד תוכלהמ ז"פב ם"במרה ןושל
Because if he himself transgresses this esur, besides the punishment אה אמלשב ,הז קבא ןימ תא ם"במרה איצוה ןיאמ
for violating the esur, he causes a great damage (to his credibility
and to his family); he will not be able to rebuke them in the future ,קבא ללכב 'וכו וריבח תבוטב רפסמה בישחקד
for doing something he himself was guilty of and a man’s family וז ארמימה שרפל לכונ )א"ע ז"ט( ןיכרעבד ףא
generally follows his lead as the father of the house. Therefore לוקב והער ךרבמ ארקיעמ םש רמאד המ לע יאקד
he himself must be extremely careful in this regard and the result
will be good for him now (in this world) and in the future (in Olam חכומ )ב"ע ד"סק( ב"במ לבא ארמגב ש"יע לודג
Haba). יבר םש רמא ךכלד ,ערה ןושל הזב ךיישד אידהב
לבא .ש"יע הזה ערה ןושלמ ךלכ הירב ןועמש 'רל
Be’er Mayim Chayim
רכזנ אל 'וכו ינולפל רמאי ימ ם"במרה בתכש המ
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(K8/14/1)-(27)..Tanna DeVei Eliyahu Rabbah (21 perek): This .ללכ ארמגב
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is the language of the text in the 21 perek: A person should not stand
by passively while watching his father and mother talking excessively.
And if he does remain passive then both he and his parents will not live
out the full lifetime allotted to them. However this person must be very
careful not to (show any disrespect and) say they violated the teaching Chayatah. Rebbe exclaimed to his son “Stop speaking Lashon Hara!”
of the Torah, as Chazal relate in Gemara Kedushin (32a), but instead he Another time Rebbe Shimon was reading Tehilim in front of his father.
should speak to them gently and respectfully, and say to them: “Even if Rebbe commented how straight the lines were (how the handwritten text
what you are saying is true, the Torah commands us that one may not was so well-written). Rebbe Shimon told his father “I did not write it,
Rebbe Yehudah Chayatah wrote it.” Rebbe told his son “Stop speaking
speak Lashon Hara about a fellow Jew in any circumstance.” Instead he Lashon Hara! ” Now granted the first remark was Lashon Hara but what
should find other ways of praising the virtues of the “victim” (the person Lashon Hara was contained in the second remark? Answer – For the
who is the subject of his parent’s conversation) until they stop making reason given by Rav Dimi; Rav Dimi the brother of Rav Safra taught
these kinds of comments. that one should never praise the deeds of his friend (excessively – Rashi)
because in praising him, he will eventually come to demean him.
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