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maximize the level of service and                        with your grief, and being chosen to
         minimize the potential for human error.                  give a eulogy is an honor and should be
         Since it is illegal to perform more than                 treated that way. Here are some tips for
         one cremation at a time, and the vast                    writing and delivering an eloquent and
         majority of crematories can only cremate                 memorable eulogy.
         one body at a time, it is next to impossible
         to receive the incorrect remains.                        Gather information. Talk with family
                                                                  members, close friends and co- workers
         How long does the actual cremation                       to  get  important  information  on the
         take?                                                    deceased. Some important information
         It all depends on the weight of the                      to include in the eulogy is the person’s
         individual. For an average sized adult,                  family and other close relationships,
         cremation can take two to three hours at a               their    education/career,       hobbies     or
         normal operating temperature of between                  special interests, places the person
         1000 and 2000 degrees Fahrenheit.                        lived or travelled to, and any special
                                                                  accomplishments they had.
         What do the cremated remains look
         like?                                                    Organize  your  thoughts.  Jot  down  your
         Cremated remains resemble coarse sand                    ideas  by  whatever  means  are  most
         and are whitish to light grey in color. The              comfortable and familiar to you. Create
         remains of an average sized adult usually                an outline of your speech, and fill in the
         weigh between 7 and 8 pounds.                            information that you gathered about the
                                                                  person.

         Are all the cremated remains returned?                   Write it down. This is not a toast at a
         With the exception of minute and                         wedding where you can make off the
         microscopic       particles,     which      are          cuff remarks, and you should not adlib a
         impossible to remove from the cremation                  eulogy. Writing it all down allows you to
         chamber and processing machine, all of                   include and remember every detail you
         the cremated remains are given back to                   wanted  to  incorporate  in  your speech.
         the family.
                                                                  When you bring a copy of your eulogy to
                                                                  the podium make sure it is easy to read,
         Do I need an urn?                                        print it out in a large font, or if hand-
         An urn is not required by law. However,                  written leave a few spaces between the
         an urn may be desired if there is to be                  lines. Keep in mind your time constraints,
         a memorial service or if the remains are                 it’s best to keep things on the short side,
         to be interred in a cemetery. If an urn is               especially if there are other speakers.
         not purchased or provided by the family,
         the cremated remains will be returned in                 Review and Revise. Your first draft will not
         a temporary plastic container.                           be the last. When you think you are done,
                                                                  sleep on it and look it over in the morning
         Eulogies                                                 when it is fresh again, Practice, Practice,
                                                                  Practice. Read over your eulogy several
         Giving a meaningful, moving eulogy can                   times in order to become familiar with it.
         be a nerve-wracking situation for even the               Practice in front of a mirror, read it over
         most accomplished public speaker, but                    to some friends or family and have them
         it need not be. How can you summarize                    give you feedback. Become familiar with
         somebody’s life in a few short minutes,                  your speech so you can recite without
         while being both somber and funny at                     making it look as though you’re reading
         the same time? Writing and delivering a                  from a script. The more you practice
         eulogy is a therapeutic tool to help deal                the more comfortable you will be. Make



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