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both personal and financial. Take time community as you look for meaning.
making major decisions. Begin slowly. You will discover new strengths and
Handle projects in small increments talents. Trust your heart.
of time. This will help build your Create new routines and rituals
confidence and prove that you are Develop new routines and patterns
making progress. as you search for the new you.
Put the clothes away when you are Acknowledge the empty chair and
ready. Do not let others push you to move it. Rearrange your furniture and
make decisions you are uncomfortable create a space just for you. Exercise at
making. a specific time each day. Journal and
As you are getting your finances in make an entry daily. Daily patterns
order, get your other affairs in order will help you develop your new
to. Change insurance beneficiaries. identity and find a new normality.
Check your health and other insurance Find ways to remember the life of
policies. Discuss your own funeral your loved one daily. You do not
arrangements with your family and have to say goodbye. It is important
funeral director. Taking care of life’s to acknowledge the change in your
“paperwork” can help restore a sense relationship. You do not stop loving
of control and give you peace of mind. someone just because they have died.
Be patient with yourself You can still maintain a relationship
Grieving takes time. It takes far longer in your heart. They are a part of who
than anyone expects, particularly you. you are and who you are becoming.
You really don’t ever get “over it” but Reach out to others
you can get “through it”. This loss is a Learn to ask for what you need. Your
part of your life. Be assured, you will family and friends want to help, so
not always feel as you do right now. let them know how. Turn to people
Listen to yourself and go forward at you can trust for support and for
your own pace. Don’t be surprised information. Find people who will
when grief shows up again. Just when listen when you want to talk. Leave
you think you might be doing better, the scrapbook or photo album out
you may find yourself crying in the on the coffee table so others can
grocery store or when you hear a remember and share memories with
specific song on the radio. Anger and you.
guilt can strike anywhere at any time. You may want to talk to others who
Forgive yourself for living when your are grieving, consider joining a
loved one did not. support group. Most groups are listed
Find yourself by subject in the phone directory
Grief has changed your life completely. or through churches, newspapers,
You cannot go back to being who you hospitals, local health and social
were. You really don’t ever get “over service agencies, the Chamber of
it” but you can get “through it”. You Commerce or your local funeral home.
can learn to live with who you are now. You can learn and grow in common,
Most bereaved people experience a yet different experiences. You do not
change of perspective and discover have to travel this journey alone. Life
that their priorities change. Now is a can have meaning again.
time to take a personal inventory and
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may find great comfort in your faith
