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Chayei Adam - K’lal 144 - Laws of Erev Yom Kippur

]17[ People are very concerned if their candles go out. In my opinion, there is
no concern because sometimes they extinguish because of wind or heat.
Nevertheless, since people are concerned, it is proper that a person give his
candle to the shamas and not take care of it at all. The extra ones should be put
in the shul. Otherwise, people won’t daven maariv on motzei Yom Kippur.
Therefore, it is proper to do as I have written. 72

]18[ Even one who wears sackcloth as a way of doing teshuva, is forbidden
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from wearing it on Yom Kippur, because it is a yom tov. Certainly, it is forbidden
to put socks or beans in one’s socks as a way of doing teshuva. It appears to me
that during the rest of the year this is also forbidden as this is the way of the
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prophets of the Ba’al [idol], as it says “until blood spills on them”.

]19[ The custom is to give berachos to one’s children before going to shul,
because then the kedusha of the day has begun and the gates of mercy are
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open. The blessing is as follows: “May Hashem make you like [Efraim and
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Menashe ]. May it be the will of our Father in Heaven that He place His love and
fear in your heart and that yiras Hashem should radiate from your face all of your
life so that you don’t sin and you should have desire for Torah and mitzvos, your
eyes should look straight, your mouth should speak wisdom and your heart
should think in fear [of Heaven], your hands should be busy with mitzvos, your
feet should run to do the will of your Father in Heaven, and He should give you
sons and daughters who are righteous who are involved in Torah and mitzvos all

םדו רשב
72. See above note 68 regarding the the honor due to yom tov (Magen Avraham).
candle lit for each married man. The Chayei
Adam recommends giving them to the shamas 74. Melachim Alef 18:28. The Torah
(as we have written above) and leaving some (Devarim 14:1) forbids inflicting wounds on
in the shul so that there will be adequate light oneself in mourning over the dead. We see
in the shul to daven maariv on motzei Yom that the nevi’ei ha’baal (prophets of the Baal
Kippur. idol] did the same thing in the service of idols.
Therefore, reasons the Chayei Adam, that
73. Since sackcloth is a contradiction to although one may deprive himself of

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