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without your partner having to ask you. They are telling you (at least in this instance) that you could boost their morale with four words —“How was your day?” Yet, I hind it difhicult to convince people to do the easy work, like this; and often impossible to do the hard work, like shoe shopping. Perhaps it is because the words are easy enough to say, but the act of being interested in, listening to, acting on the request, is the harder part.
Addressing inequity, fairness and compromise is the work of “intention,” again. As with all intention, if you are not actively doing it, you are not doing it and will create disappointment.
Control: Who is Driving the Bus?
In the beginning of a loving relationship, probably the number one thing we ignore is how important issues of dominance and control are between you and your partner. We might even be impressed by the “take charge attitude” we see in a strong and dominating partner. That is until the relationship progresses and control becomes the underlying theme of conhlict in the partnership. In the vast majority of failed relationships that I see and cannot help repair, the reason that people give for wanting to hlee from a relationship is that their partner was a “control freak.”
Controlling the physical and emotional space around a partner can be a kind hearted and unintentionally annoying offer to“help” you by taking over your life and your decision making. Or it can be related to a pathological need for superiority or possessiveness.
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