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elephant poop? Random elephants just roaming around your neighborhood might even be a bigger problem than their poop!
Apparently there is wisdom in poop and the wisdom here is that life is too short and too full of other aggravation to react to the bird poop in your relationship as though it were elephant poop.
The extent to which we have the need for dominance and control of intimate partners is determined by a host of factors: temperament, upbringing, relationship history. It’s always pretty easy to see when someone else is imposing their will on you, but what’s important in managing and maintaining a relationship that you want to stay in, is monitoring yourself. Your demands, your criteria for acceptability, your rigidity and your agenda can be hard to see in yourself, but if you ask your partner and do it in a way that seems to improve your relationship you can use that feedback constructively.
Also, often there are two control oriented people in a relationship and that can make for a combination like hire and gasoline.
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