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Most relationships cannot grow in the toxic soil of the latter, but partners can feel so entrapped in controlling relationships that they cannot see a way out and then stop trying to leave. We are going to learn more about this in the chapter that discusses “mad, bad, sad and fad” loves.
In healthy, deepening relationships control is passed back and forth freely between the partners. If my partner is a better driver than me, and we are going someplace together, they drive. If I am a better book keeper I keep track of hinances. If I know my partner takes great joy in picking out furniture and decorating, after discussing the budget, they get the hinal say.
I know that’s easy when everyone agrees on who the better driver is, who the more efhicient book keeper is and who has a better eye for interior decoration, but what about when they don’t?
When they don’t it’s time to return to the state of bliss that new love creates and split that last French fry. Negotiate. Divide tasks and decisions. Be hlexible. Manage the disappointment of having to relinquish control with the understanding that all of life’s problems boil down to three types of poop — bird, dog and elephant. Don’t fret over bird poop. If it isn’t on your windshield blocking your view of trafhic, the next rain or a quick pass with a garden hose will wash it away. Dog poop requires a bit more effort to dispose of, but nothing life shattering. Elephant poop is a problem because what the hell are you doing in a place where you might have to deal with
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