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emotional torture to the point where he doesn't want to go to school, approach the teacher. If the complaints are manageable, encourage your child to keep away from the bully, or suggest a possible conflict-resolution strategy. Sometimes, the low-level bullies will find it very acceptable to call a truce, so long as your child is the one who suggests it. Meanwhile, as all of this unfolds, be sure to be supportive and nurturing to your child, and never ask, "Well, what are you doing to Butch that's making him bother you so much?”
SIBLINGS AND SIBLING RIVALRY
There must be a way to manage more than one child living under the same roof without the carnage, bloodthirsty screaming, and war-room strategies to get even—not to mention what goes on between the kids themselves.
One parent I know has come to the point that whenever she pours her boys something to drink, her normal way of distributing the beverages is to fill the glasses up to the very brink, so that as soon as they touch it some spills over. This is to avoid the "He got more!" arguments that were previously a part of the drink- pouring ceremonies.
These questions and answers are typical of parents' concerns over sibling rivalry, one of parenting's most difficult, white- knuckle adventures.
NEW BABY
We have a son who is three years old and an infant of three weeks. We did the best we could to prepare our older son for his new brother, but the sibling rivalry has begun already. The other day, we found the three-year-old sitting in the baby's
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