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Attachment Parenting:
What’s It All About?
By Rifka Schonfeld, Director of S.O.S.
(Strategies For Optimum Success)
A child is in a room, playing with toys. child did when the mother was not in
At one point, her mother walks out of the room. Rather, her main focus was
the room, leaving the child alone with a on what the child did when the moth-
stranger. Less than three minutes later, er returned. This research was directed
her mother walks back into the room. Ăƚ ƵŶĚĞƌƐƚĂŶĚŝŶŐ ƚŚĞ ĚŝīĞƌĞŶƚ ƌĞůĂƟŽŶ-
How does the child respond? ships children have with their parents.
One child cries hysterically and is ĞĨŽƌĞ ůŽŽŬŝŶŐ Ăƚ ƚŚĞ ƌĞƐƵůƚƐ ŽĨ ƚŚĞ ŝŶ-
calmed immediately when her mother ĨĂŶƚͲƐƚƌĂŶŐĞ ƐŝƚƵĂƟŽŶ͕ ĮƌƐƚ͕ ŝƚ ŵŝŐŚƚ ďĞ
walks back into the room and picks her useful to understand the various types
up. ŽĨ ĂƩĂĐŚŵĞŶƚƐ ƚŚĂƚ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ĐĂŶ ŚĂǀĞ͘
Another child acts as if nothing had hap- In their book, WĂƌĞŶƟŶŐ ĨƌŽŵ ƚŚĞ /Ŷ-
Bulletin
pened, both when her mother leaves ƐŝĚĞ KƵƚ, Drs. Daniel J. Siegel and Mary
and when she returns. She simply con- ,ĂƌƚnjĞůů ĚĞƐĐƌŝďĞ ĨŽƵƌ ĚŝīĞƌĞŶƚ ƚLJƉĞƐ ŽĨ
ƟŶƵĞƐ ƚŽ ƉůĂLJ ǁŝƚŚ ƚŚĞ ƚŽLJƐ͘ ĂƩĂĐŚŵĞŶƚƐ͗
A third child cries when her mother
leaves, and cannot be calmed upon her ^ĞĐƵƌĞ ĂƩĂĐŚŵĞŶƚ͗ ^ĞĐƵƌĞ ĂƩĂĐŚ-
return. ments occur when children have con-
What does this study reveal about par- ƐŝƐƚĞŶƚ͕ ĞŵŽƟŽŶĂůůLJ ĐŽŶŶĞĐƚĞĚ ĐŽŵŵƵ-
ĞŶƚͲĐŚŝůĚ ŝŶƚĞƌĂĐƟŽŶƐ͍ ŶĚ ǁŚLJ ĚŽĞƐ ŝƚ ŶŝĐĂƟŽŶ ǁŝƚŚ ƚŚĞŝƌ ƉĂƌĞŶƚƐ ;Žƌ ƉƌŝŵĂƌLJ
ŵĂƩĞƌ͍ caregivers). This consistency is impor-
In the middle of the last century, a re- tant throughout, but especially during
search psychologist, Mary Ainsworth, ĞŵŽƟŽŶĂů ĚŝƐƚƌĞƐƐ͘ tŚĞŶ ĐŚŝůĚƌĞŶ ĨĞĞů
ĐŽŶĚƵĐƚĞĚ ƚŚĞ ƐƚƵĚLJ ĂďŽǀĞ͕ ĞŶƟƚůĞĚ that they are understood and protect-
͞ŝŶĨĂŶƚͲƐƚƌĂŶŐĞ ƐŝƚƵĂƟŽŶ͘͟ Ƶƚ ƐŚĞ ed on a consistent basis, they develop
ǁĂƐŶ͛ƚ ƉĂLJŝŶŐ ĂƩĞŶƟŽŶ ƚŽ ǁŚĂƚ ƚŚĞ
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