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Lighthouse

Parenting

By Rifka Schonfeld, Director of S.O.S.
(Strategies For Optimum Success)

“Parents are neither an anchor to hold us
back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding
light whose love shows us the way.” need to protect them, but also trust them.

Dr. Ginsburg explains, “We all want our
Building Resilience in Teens and Children, children to be happy, but we need them to
recently came out with a second book that be resilient. We wish we could guarantee a
he co-authored with this twin teenager
daughters Ilana and Talia. That book, and manageable bumps. Because we lack
Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love with this control over the future, we must prepare
our children to successfully handle both good
great guide for modern parents who would

If resilience were a trait, something you had
Ginsburg uses the term “lighthouse parents”
to describe the perfect balance between do to foster it in our children. Part of what
helicopter parents and absent parents. While
helicopter parents are always hovering and work of youth development is that children’s
resilience is largely determined by how

and not engaged. The middle? A lighthouse
parent. A lighthouse parent acts as a role A few important pointers that Dr. Ginsburg
model, a beacon against which a child can (and his daughters) lay out are:
measure his or herself. A lighthouse parent
also watches the rocks to ensure that their
children do not crash against them, but also
looks out towards the distance and trusts
their children to ride the waves. praise results.

Why do you want to be a lighthouse parent? then more or less get out of the way. When
you set boundaries and then police them,
As Dr. Ginsburg explains, as a parent you children are less likely to be intrinsically

year-old. You also want to raise a successful
or control. Consequences should match
the problem so that the lesson is clearly