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RokZRooM Special ! You Can Win by Shiv Khera

Many brilliant and talented people have destroyed their own success because they lack
courtesy and manners. Politeness and courtesy are signs of being cultured. Rudeness
and discourtesy show the lack of it. Treat other people with respect and dignity.

Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength.
--Eric Hoffer

Step 23: Develop a Sense of Humor

Have a sense of humor and you will possess the ability to laugh at yourself. A sense of
humor makes a person likable and attractive. Some people are humor-impaired. Learn to
laugh at yourself because it is the safest humor. Laughing at yourself gives you the
energy to bounce back. Laughter is a natural tranquilizer for people all over the world.
Humor may not change the message, but it certainly can help to take the sting out of the
bite.

THE HEALING POWER OF HUMOR

Dr. Norman Cousins, author of Anatomy of an Illness, is a prime example of how a
person can cure himself of a terminal illness. He had a 1-in-500 chance of recovery, but
Cousin wanted to prove that if there was anything like mind over matter, he'd make it a
reality. He figured if negative emotions caused negative chemicals in our body, then the
reverse must be true too. Positive emotions, like happiness and laughter, would bring
positive chemicals into our system. He moved from the hospital to a hotel and rented
humorous movies and literally cured himself by laughing. Of course, medical help is
important, but the will to live for the patient is equally, if not more, important.
A funny bone could be a lifesaver. Besides, it makes life's adversities easier to handle.

Step 24: Don't Be Sarcastic and Put Others Down

Negative people's humor may include sarcasm, putdowns and hurtful remarks. Any
humor involving sarcasm that makes fun of others is in poor taste. An injury is forgiven
more easily than an insult.

When someone blushes with embarrassment, when someone carries away an ache,
when something sacred is made to appear common, when someone's weakness
provides the laughter, when profanity is required to make it funny, when a child is brought
to tears or when everyone can't join in the laughter, it's a poor joke.

--Cliff Thomas

To a sadist everything is funny, so long as it is happening to someone else. It is not an
uncommon sight to see boys throwing stones at frogs just to have fun. The boys' fun
means death to the frogs. It is not fun for the frogs.
Humor can be valuable or dangerous, depending on whether you are laughing with
someone or at someone. When humor involves making fun of or ridiculing others, it is not
in good taste nor is it innocent. Hurting others' feelings can be cruel. Some people get

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