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RokZRooM Special ! You Can Win by Shiv Khera

People with poor self-esteem judge a person's worth by his possessions, not by who he
is. They constantly look at what kind of car you are driving, what kind of home you live in,
what kind of clothes and jewelry you wear. They forget that people make things, and not
vice versa. People with poor self esteem place more emphasis on net worth than self
worth. Their lives revolve around ads and fads. Designer labels are their status symbols.
Take away their things and they will die of shame. They get into a rat race. "The problem
with the rat race is that even if you win, you are still a rat."*

♦ Lack of pride in themselves--they are shabbily dressed and uncouth.
♦ They are takers, not givers.

Low self-esteem could lead to extremes of behavior. A person with high self-esteem
could choose identical behavior for different reasons: He may be alone because he
prefers solitude, whereas a person with low self-esteem prefers to be alone because he
is uncomfortable in groups.

Some characteristics of people with:

High Self-Esteem Low Self-Esteem

Talk about ideas Talk about people
Caring attitude Critical attitude
Humility Arrogance
Respects authority Rebels against authority
Courage of conviction Goes along to get along
Confidence Confusion
Concerned about character Concerned about reputation
Assertive Aggressive
Accepts responsibility Blames the whole world
Self-interest Selfish
Optimistic Fatalistic
Understanding Greedy
Willing to learn Know it all
Sensitive Touchy
Solitude Lonely
Discuss Argue
Believes in self-worth Believes in net worth only
Guided Misguided
Discipline Distorted sense of freedom
Internally driven Externally driven
Respects others Looks down on others
Enjoys decency Enjoys vulgarity
Knows limit Everything goes
Giver Taker

The objective of this list is to provide a basis for self evaluation rather than produce guilt.
It is not necessary to have all the traits. Some characteristics may be present to a greater

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