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RokZRooM Special ! You Can Win by Shiv Khera

or lesser degree. So long as we are able to recognize them, we can make an effort to
correct ourselves.

THEY PUT ON A MASK

A young executive with poor self-esteem was promoted but he couldn't reconcile himself
to his new office and position. There was a knock at his door. To show how important
and busy he was, he picked up the phone and then asked the visitor to come in. As the
man waited for the executive, the executive kept talking on the phone, nodding and
saying, "No problem, I can handle that." After a few minutes he hung up and asked the
visitor what he could do for him. The man replied, "Sir, I'm here to connect your phone."

What is the Message?

Why pretend? What are we trying to prove? What do we want to accomplish? Why do we
need to lie? Why look for feelings of false importance? All of this comes from insecurity
and poor self-esteem.

Why Pretend?

Our character can be judged by everything we do or don't do, like or don't like, such as:

♦ The kind of movies we enjoy.
♦ The kind of music we listen to.
♦ The kind of company we keep or avoid.
♦ The kind of jokes we tell or laugh at.
♦ The kind of books we read.

Every action of ours gives us away anyway, so why pretend? I believe that if a person
lives with conviction, sensitivity and cooperation, he can move others with his effort. That
person becomes worthy of self-respect.

Positive Self-Esteem Negative Self-Esteem

1. self-respect self-put down
2. self-confidence self-doubt
3. self-worth self-abuse
4. self-acceptance self-denial
5. self-love self-centered Ness
6. self-knowledge self-deceit
7. self-discipline self-indulgence

Self-esteem does not mean having a big ego. Unless a person is at peace with himself,
he cannot be at peace with others. Just as we cannot give to others what we don't have.
Unless we possess the components of self esteem, we cannot share it with others. We
need to first get in touch with ourselves and put ourselves in order.
Even in an aircraft, the safety instructions tell you to put on an oxygen mask on yourself
first and then on your child. We are not talking about selfishness.

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