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Continued from page 14 homemaker and mother of three we forget to have fun along the
one, except to make everyone children recently said to me, "I way, and we forget to cut our-
feel worse than they already do. just can't get the house cleaned selves some slack. We take simple
When we do recognize that life up the way I like it before every- preferences and turn them into
isn't fair, however, we feel one leaves in the morning." She conditions for our own happi-
compassion for others and for was so upset over her inability to ness. Or, we beat ourselves up if
ourselves. And compassion is a be perfect that her doctor had we can't meet our self-created
heartfelt emotion that delivers prescribed her anti-anxiety medi- deadlines. The first step in be-
loving-kindness to everyone it cine. She was acting (and feeling) coming a more peaceful person is
touches. The next time you like there was a gun pointed at to have the humility to admit
find yourself thinking about the her head and the sniper was de- that, in most cases, you're creat-
injustices of the world, try re- manding that every dish be put ing your own emergencies. Life
minding yourself of this very away and every towel folded - or will usually go on if things don't
basic fact. You may be sur- else! Again, the silent assumption go according to plan.
prised that it can nudge you out was, this is an emergency!
of self-pity and into helpful ac- It's helpful to keep reminding
tion. The truth was, no one other than yourself and repeating the sen-
she had created the pressure she
tence, "Life isn't an emergency.
Allow Yourself to Be Bored was experiencing. I've never met
For many of us, our lives are anyone (myself included) who ‘’(Source:- Richard Carlson, Phd
so filled with stimuli, not to hasn't turned little things into Don't sweet on small stuff)’’
mention their "in basket" won't great big emergencies. We take
be empty! A client who is a our own goals so seriously that
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