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There’s a widespread myth that gay men can’t, won’t, or don’t maintain long

term monogamous LGBTQ relationships.

The reality, according to good research, is that hundreds of thousands of gay men
in long term relationships are enjoying sexually satisfying monogamous

relationships.

Talk About Sex

Perhaps we learn from the movies that good sex should just happen immediately
and automatically, with lots of passionate bumping into tables and knocking

pictures off walls. In reality, like all aspects of a relationship, it gets much better

if we talk about it.

For some couples this is difficult. Sex for gay men – as well as for everyone else

– can be doused with a heavy serving of shame which can make it embarrassing

to discuss.

It takes practice and courage. For many couples it is safer to talk about sex with

your clothes on. For best results give the conversation a spirit of playfulness and

flirtation rather than criticism.

After all, the whole purpose of sex is to have fun.

The best topic for conversation? Simply tell each other what you like.

Unleash Creativity

Over time, sex with your partner can become boring. Doing something the same
way over and over again can make anything dull.

To add variety to your sex life together, consider accessing your creativity or your

bravery and start exploring some of your private sexual fantasies together.

You and your partner can create the experience of something new by pretending
that your partner is someone else.