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It’s no secret that newness is a turn-on for most people, so why deny it? Fantasy

takes the familiar and makes it fresh and exciting again.

Perhaps you may be thinking that it is distancing or unromantic to think about
someone else when you are having sex with the man you love. Consider this: it

can actually be very intimate to share your fantasies with your mate.

It becomes intimate when your partner knows that you are engaging in a fantasy
together.

For more inspiration you might consider taking a couples workshop at the Body

Electric School (www.thebodyelectricschool.com). It is a respected organization
that offers powerful erotic education workshops.

Resolving Resentments

I believe the number one reason couples stop having sex is due to resentments
that have built up over the years that have not been worked through. Nothing
kills a sex life faster than feeling annoyed or angry with your partner.

If on the surface you and your partner get along well but have stopped having
sex, then it may be time to look deeper to discover what is blocking this
important expression of intimacy. Ignoring your sex life for years often leads to

trouble and crisis in a relationship.

Know What You Are Yearning For

If you find yourself secretly looking for sex outside of your monogamous

relationship it is important for you to understand why.

We may tell ourselves that we are looking for hot sex but more commonly we
are looking for validation.

In fact, most people I work with report that sex with that cute stranger is

ultimately disappointing but the chase and knowing that he finds you attractive
is delicious.