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cause significant rifts in the relationships. This causes even more alienation

and this is when the vicious cycle starts up.

The actions of someone with self-defeating behavior will push away those

that love them. These people not understanding the situation will often just

not deal with a person. This can cause feelings of pain and betrayal in the

person with self-defeating behavior which results in increased isolation and

loneliness. This is when people start to get angry with them resulting in the

toxic person syndrome mentioned earlier. They feel that they are just

trouble and toxic and when they encounter someone their actions cause

the person to back away affirming the feeling that they are toxic.

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