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Now, please, don't get me wrong. The person who visited
the transgressions upon you was horribly wrong, and they
are still 100% completely culpable and accountable and
owe you (and themselves) an apology and retribution. But
even if you do not get that, the magic here is the fact that
now it is no longer YOUR problem, and you can simply
move on and feel your own spirit heal. And as a bonus, and
through it all, you have participated in someone's spiritual
growth, spread true tolerance, love, and grace, and find that
you have gained enlightenment and spiritual growth as well.
You have shown the very best of what the human spirit has
to offer and that is only good for everyone involved.

I should mention here that many of us may find ourselves
in a position in which the perpetrator(s) cannot control their
compulsion to, well, perpetrate. It happens. If that person is
someone close to you or even worse, a beloved family
member, then you may have to do something quite serious.
If that is the case, then the only way to stop the abuse may
be to cause physical separation. It is a sad story but
sometimes it is the only way out (don't ask me how I know).

An old guy I know once said: "Sometimes, when someone
you care about has a tendency to hang themselves, then it
just may be your job to hide the rope." That old guy is me,
and now I'm passing it on to you. Your sacrifice, and it will
likely be a sacrifice, will not only promote spiritual growth
in the one you care about but also free you to experience
your own journey and advancement. Life is often a series
of sacrifices and these manifest as only more challenges to
face and overcome, making you a better person not only for
yourself, but for the people around you. Win-win-win.

But perhaps the most important manifestation of all is
Forgiveness of Oneself. Yes, the ability to forgive yourself,
for you are human an will screw up, is something we

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