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As earlier discussed, not everyone is cut out to be a parent,
but that doesn't stop people from having children anyway.
The unfortunate offshoot of this is that there are many
levels of competency when it comes to child-rearing.

Many experts in the field believe that an inordinate amount
of our psychological make-up is determined in the first four
years of life. This means that if a child does not have an
abundance of close, intimate love for the first four years of
her life, it's very likely going to be a long, difficult slog of
it after that. So love in the home is very important, right
from the get-go.

A child that grows up with love, kindness, and
understanding will feel free to develop his personality with
little undue pressure and his natural tendencies should
surface, sooner or later. An observant, attentive parent will
see the aptitudes and direction a child is going in, and
encourage these tendencies without prejudice. By the time
he is old enough to experience higher education, there
should be some tangible direction for the child to be
concentrating on, or at least a general direction that has
potential, and the chances of someone pursuing their
passion is greatly increased.

But the child that is brought up with little love, is given
little attention, or even worse with undue pressure to be
something he feels he isn't, will experience nothing but
emptiness and frustration. His natural tendencies will be
suppressed, and there will be much pain and confusion.

Now, I cannot of course be absolutely positive that every
person on the earth has a true calling, but I would sure like
to think so, even if there is some ambiguity through their
young life. I can tell you this, that in my experience every
kid I knew who was allowed to be themselves found their

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