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The problem is that we can be selective in the mirrors we choose. We typically go to the ones that give us the expected, “reflection” rather than the truthful one.
If you typically see others as being against you or not appreciating how special you are, then you will “see” them as being mean and ugly whenever they do not respond the way you want them to respond. For example, if you want a classmate to call and invite you to a party but they don’t, you may “see” them as a negative “reflection.” You may tell yourself that they did not invite you because they are jealous of you or that they have made other friends and are trying to exclude you. You hope that their party is a failure and that everyone has a terrible time. You may avoid them at school the following week or be ugly to them.
If you typically see yourself as being unlikable then you will “see” any hint of rejection as proofing that you are correct. For example, if you want a classmate to call and invite you to a party but they don’t, you may “see” this as a “reflection” of your lack of likability. They did not invite you because you are so unlikable that if you came, no one else would come to the party. You imagine everyone having a great time at the party and being so glad that you are not there. You may avoid them at school and get embarrassed or sad whenever you see them.
The truth probably lies somewhere between these two examples. However, we typically don’t search out the truth. The party may be for only for the person’s gymnastics class. Maybe they could only invite eight people or something similar. The truth may be that they simply chose not to invite you for whatever reason.
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