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he is not a fly by night but work for the biggest listed insurance house you can

find. There is no need for haste with investments for you may have to use some
of the policy money to pay estate debts or duties for the tax man want his
share.

As a general rule you are not capable of making big decisions so leave the

money somewhere safe on a 60 day call account and get some distance before
making any decisions. Death is a life changing event for anyone close to the

deceased.

The funeral

I don't need to ask you to be properly dressed I suppose. Many times I saw

widows with very revealing clothes which I think are improper but anyway.
Perhaps I am too conservative and respect the dead too much. Nor do I wish to

talk of the actual ceremony because it differs very widely. African funerals are
mostly an excuse for a three day party as I am sure it is in other parts of the

world. That is also fine with me.

I do want to say though that a funeral is what you need to say goodbye and
move on with life. You find peace there and whilst the sadness stays much long

you are able to face life again. It is not the end if you are a believer. It is very
important to give the widow time to gather her thoughts during this time and to

leave her alone. There is nothing you can say or do which will make it easier for
her. Be compassioned and respectful. My father always advised just a hug and

that is it. Long stories are mostly unwelcome unless asked for.

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