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Compassion is among the key ingredients of forgiveness. Learn to seek and

appreciate the love, beauty and kindness around you. It's there, and you
might have to alter your thinking and behavior to discover it. To have

compassion for other people, you have to first have compassion for yourself.

Fit relationships are not possible without forgiveness! You can't have a

loving and rewarding relationship with anybody else, much less yourself, if
you continue to hold on to things that occurred in the past. Regardless of the

situation, making peace with past love partners, your parents, youngsters,

your boss or anybody who you think might have "done you wrong" is the

only way to better your chances of a "healthy" relationship with yourself or
anybody else for that matter! It isn't possible to truly be present and

available to a fresh relationship till you heal the hurt and upsets of the past.

Forgiving somebody else is to agree inside yourself to overlook the wrong
they've committed against you and to move on with your life. It's the only

way. It entails cutting them some slack. "What?" you say! "Cut them some

slack after what THEY did to me? Never!" Let go! March on!

Non-forgiveness keeps you in the battle. Being willing to forgive may bring
a sense of peace and well-being. It lifts anxiousness and delivers you from

depression. It may enhance your self-regard and give you hope.

Forgiveness is a journey. You might never forget AND you may decide to
forgive. You may forgive and tomorrow you might feel the pain all over once

again. As life goes on and you decide to remember and feel the pain, then is

the time to over again remember that you've already forgiven. Mentally

forgive again if necessary, then move onward. When we allow it, time may
dull the vividness of the memory of the hurt; the memory will finally fade.

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