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For the rest of your life, these beliefs affect the way you think and behave. Until you identify the
beliefs that are not relevant to you personally, or no longer serve your best interests, your
happiness through authenticity remains at the mercy of those beliefs.

In other words, your life experiences cause you to make decisions about yourself, your abilities,
the thoughts you will have, the behaviours you will employ and the choices you will make.
· Between birth and 5 years you receive 50% of your emotional programming

· Between 5 and 8 years you receive 30% of your emotional programming
· Between 8 and 18 years you receive 15% of your emotional programming
By the time you are eighteen, you are 95% programmed! It is the 5% remaining for the rest of
your life that can be used to make worthwhile changes in your life. As an example, whilst 5% of
your mind says “I want a wonderful relationship with a partner that treats me well”, it is the 95%
already programmed that is responsible for the poor love choices you may have made in the
past. It is only once you dig deep enough like this, to understand why you have been doing
what you have been doing that you will be free to change your life and behaviour for the
better. Your unconscious mental programming is responsible for most of the pain you have
experienced from decisions and choices you have made in the past.
The Stages of Human Development

One of the worlds most recognised psychologists was Erik Erikson, whose work in the field of
human development is particularly relevant to the subject we are exploring here.
Babies are born with some basic capabilities and distinct temperaments. But they go through
dramatic changes on the way to adulthood, and while growing old.
According to Erikson, each individual passes through eight developmental stages.

Each stage is characterized by a different psychological "crisis", which must be resolved by the
individual before the individual can move on to the next stage. If the person copes with a
particular crisis poorly, the outcome will be more struggles with that issue later in life.