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Self Analysis Exercise

· What was the long term effect of the choice on your self worth?
· How or why did the choice clarify or obstruct your authentic self?

· Review your interpretation and reaction to the choice.
Was your interpretation accurate or inaccurate?

Influential People
Finally, we will look at the people who intentionally or otherwise, well intended or not, exerted
influence over the level of authenticity with which you now live your life. List the people who
have influenced your life, positively and negatively. Again, consider the age bands:
· Stage 1: 0 to 6 Up to early Childhood

· Stage 2: 6 to 12 Up to Junior School Years
· Stage 3: 12 to 18 Adolescence
· Stage 4: 19 to 40 Young Adulthood

· Stage 5: 40 -65 Middle Adulthood
· Stage 6: 65 Onward - Late Adulthood

Who was most influential in your life throughout each band? The same people may have
exerted influence across the bands, such as parents, siblings, friends.

Who shaped your concept of self and authenticity that controls your life today?
For each person :

· List their name
· How old were you at that time?

· Write their actions that affected you
· Write down the influence of these actions on you, positive or negative
For the purpose of this exercise, take a cold hard look at the influence that has been exerted on
your development. Do not allow your feelings for the person affect your judgement. However
well intended, their influence may no longer fit with you comfortably. It is time to determine if the
influences that have helped create the present “you”, are they still (or were they ever) serving
your best interests in terms of your emotional development?

Were you on the list of influential people? If not, why not? If your own name does not appear on
the list it may mean that the self you now own has been moulded and forged by other people.
This would mean that you attribute your basic core characteristics to the action and behaviour
of others. If so, maybe they took good care of the precious commodity you entrusted them with
and maybe they didn’t.

It surely makes good sense, that you should be the first person on your list of influential people.
Only you can change YOU to your own satisfaction.

By now, you will have valuable memories, crystallised into note form, that spell out for you the
influential events and moments that moulded your life as it is now, the pivotal, influential choices
and decisions you made and the actions of the influential people in your life and the effects,
good or bad of their influence.