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EXERCISE | How healthy is your self-esteem?
Now it’s time to see how healthy your self-esteem is at the moment. Only you will see the results,
so please don’t be afraid to be completely honest with yourself. Once you have identified
where you are, you will be able to determine where you want to be and how to get there.
The following test is a simple assessment of your levels of self esteem at this moment. From the
statements, score yourself with the number that is most true for you on the following basis:
1=Never 2=Rarely 3=Sometimes 4=Frequently 5=Always

1 I constantly seek approval from others ( )
2 I am afraid of criticism ( )
3 I isolate myself and fear people in authority roles ( )
4 I guess at normal behaviour and feel less than other people ( )
5 I am unable to appreciate my own accomplishments ( )
6 I have difficulty completing projects ( )
7 I get fearful or stressed in the company of an angry person ( )
8 To avoid conflict, I find it easier to be secretive or to lie ( )
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I have compulsive behaviour, over eat, drink, use drugs, gamble, excessively spend, over indulge in sex ( )
10 I am my own worst critic, harder on myself than others ( )
11 I feel more alive in crisis, uneasy when life is going smoothly, I am always anticipating problems ( )
12 I struggle having fun. I don't seem to know how to play for fun. ( )
I am attracted to others I perceive to have been victims. In this way, I often confuse love and pity. I find
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myself rescuing/care-taking people ( )
14 I need and expect perfection at home and at work ( )
I seek out novely, excitement and the challenge of newness in life with little concern for the
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consequences of my actions ( )
16 I take myself and view all of my relationships seriously ( )
17 I have problems maintaining intimate relationships ( )
I feel guilty when I stand up for myself or take care of my needs first, instead I give/take care of others
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needs first ( )
I attract people who have compulsive behaviours (e.g. alcohol, smoking, drugs, food, spending, sex,
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overwork or excitement seekers) ( )
20 I feel responsible for others and find it easier to have concern for others than myself ( )
21 I am loyal to people for whom I care, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved ( )
22 I cling to and will do anything to hold onto relationships for fear of being alone and feeling abandoned ( )
23 I am impulsive and act too quickly, before considering alternative actions or possible consequences ( )
24 I struggle expressing and feel out of touch with my feelings ( )
25 I mistrust my feelings and the feelings expressed by others ( )
26 I isolate myself from other people and I am initially shy and withdrawn in new social surroundings ( )
27 I feel that I am being taken advantage of by individuals. I often feel victimised ( )
28 I can be over responsible much of the time, but can be extremely irresponsible at other times ( )
I feel confused and angry at myself and not in control of my environment or my life when the stresses
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are great ( )
I waste time and energy cleaning up the consequences of ill thought out or impulsive actions for which I
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am responsible (e.g.excessive spending) ( )
Total Score

Check what your score indicates on the next page.