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ego development as the first brought to consciousness,
stage of psychotherapy to they can never be united.

facilitate the individuation As we are proceeding in
process. our efforts to know each

other deeply, the shadow
Freedom and truth are what in each will come forward.
the Age of Aquarius is about. We can at this juncture

If you tell your partner the Freedom and truth become aware that what is
truth (even if it makes you are what the Age of conscious in one person
vulnerable), then what you will Aquarius is about. The can be unconscious and

have is a REAL relationship; more authentic you are undeveloped in the other.
one that will help you grow. with each other, the less Although we did not know

The more authentic you are walls you will build. it, this was a choice made
with each other, the less walls at the very beginning when

you will build. Striving to become conscious we first met. In the Age of Aquarius, we
of our total selves, we also allow our are headed for a time where collectively
partners to be themselves, not who or what we each embrace our unconscious

we want them to be. Pushing them to be shadows and learn about the contra-
what we want is more akin to domination or sexual images (Anima/Animus) in the

possession and the antithesis of freedom. psyche. Our relationships will not have
to carry that burden for us. These inner
This kind of authenticity between partners dimensions of our soul lead us to a

holds the promise of interdependency. relationship with what Jung called the
It’s a dance between two souls who bring Self, which is the ultimate goal.

their individuality to the table. There is
an acceptance for your real self not your Seeing and relating to our shadow is
fake self ( persona/mask). When we can always the starting point to going into our

honestly say to each other, “No matter what unconscious to discover and experience
side of you comes out, I am not leaving,” what Ed Edinger in his book, Ego and

we are truly each other’s best friend. I Archetype called the ego/Self axis. We can’t
am not talking here about toxic, abusive, get there any other way. Skipping this part
pathological behavior. I am talking about of the process will short-circuit us. Then

idiosyncrasies, traits and habits we all have we will have to start all over again with
that can at times drive us up a wall. With another person as becoming conscious

our best friend, we develop a capacity for takes the outer mirror of relationship to
patience, tolerance, and forgiveness. reflect our shadow back to us. Doing this
work is not easy, but it is so worth it, if we

Unless the opposites are constellated and want to be whole.
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